Is there a cheat sheet somewhere
To answer this question, yep, I wrote one in Excel. Rotala Butterfly is good, but I was worried that it would be down at some point when I needed it and got sick of calculating all of my dosages individually. So I did the logical thing and spent way more time than sensible writing some calculators.
The one you're probably most interested in for your purposes is the
GH Booster Calculator. It takes a water volume, a desired GH in degrees and a resired Ca:Mg ratio and spits out the required addition of CaSO4.2H2O and MgSO4.7H2O. It can be found in the Secondary Calcs sheet.
There's also a few other calculators.
One for calculating dosages for remineralising using KNO3, KH2PO4, K2SO4, CaSO4.2H2O (gypsum), MgSO4.7H20 (epsom salt) and NaHCO3 (baking soda). That one also works if you're using a reservoir and can't pump out all of the water. It'll calculate a reduced addition to account for the residual.
There's also two for mixing up liquid ferts if you don't want to front load. I use this for doing my micros. One works for DIY unchelated ferts and one for chelated trace mixes.
There's some basic instructions, but they were written mostly as reminders for me and may not be particularly clear to others.
It's good to understand this stuff, so I'd suggest following Gregg's advice and spend some time with Rotala Butterfly. My tank is still garbage, but it's less garbage than it was before I understood all of this. Anyway, have a play if you want.